Really good, Adrienne. I appreciated this very much. IN fact, it was a bit of an eye-opener. My husband received a stage 4 cancer diagnosis (lymphoma) when our daughter was 2 years old, and that took me away from her, and my husband, too, to a certain extent. A lovely woman volunteered to be the main caregiver, and, at the same time, she was not our daughter's parent. AND, I got a brain tumor, even before my husband completed his cancer cure, which needed work, and a 6-month recovery period, three years later. Over lunch, just yesterday, our now 28-year-old daughter was sharing with us that we were missing out on her, and her us, because of the health stuff in her formative years. I think she cultivated a hard shell to protect herself. Your article and writing were very insightful.
Parents all do what they can but in reality, it's so hard for one or two people to give children all that they need -- at all the varying stages. Some are good with babies, some with older kids, some with adults. Few are good at all. I lucked out. We both worked, but we had a constant caregiver for almost 8 years. And the kids were involved in sports -- so more adults. I worked from home from 2004 on. And of course the biggest issue, the smartphone wasn't avail until my kids were 10 and 12.
Cobbling together an adult network is something we all could use.
Really good, Adrienne. I appreciated this very much. IN fact, it was a bit of an eye-opener. My husband received a stage 4 cancer diagnosis (lymphoma) when our daughter was 2 years old, and that took me away from her, and my husband, too, to a certain extent. A lovely woman volunteered to be the main caregiver, and, at the same time, she was not our daughter's parent. AND, I got a brain tumor, even before my husband completed his cancer cure, which needed work, and a 6-month recovery period, three years later. Over lunch, just yesterday, our now 28-year-old daughter was sharing with us that we were missing out on her, and her us, because of the health stuff in her formative years. I think she cultivated a hard shell to protect herself. Your article and writing were very insightful.
This is such important advice.
Parents all do what they can but in reality, it's so hard for one or two people to give children all that they need -- at all the varying stages. Some are good with babies, some with older kids, some with adults. Few are good at all. I lucked out. We both worked, but we had a constant caregiver for almost 8 years. And the kids were involved in sports -- so more adults. I worked from home from 2004 on. And of course the biggest issue, the smartphone wasn't avail until my kids were 10 and 12.
Cobbling together an adult network is something we all could use.